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2002-04-02 Guest: Tristan Taormino Tristan Taormino shares what her fantasies would be if she was with Drew, then Adam. Classic.

Michael shares his sexual fantasies with Kimberly. Both of them are unaware that she’s developing double personalities such as prudish and “desperate houswife” Betsy.

Women’s Sexual Arousal Relies on Sexual Fantasies

Real female orgasms involve the release of sexual emotions not romantic feelings. So it does not matter how much you love your partner, orgasm will not materialize out of thin air.

Orgasm requires at least a few naughty thoughts from time to time, so if your conscience is as clear as a nun’s then you can forget about ever having one.

<i>”Few of us reach orgasm without fantasy, so let your imagination go wild! … Don’t get hung up about your fantasy; it doesn’t mean you’re odd, gay or secretly want to be raped. Most women fantasize about things they wouldn’t dream of doing in real life – that’s why we call them fantasies.” (p13 Hot Sex 1998)</i>

It turns out that women use sexual fantasies for sexual arousal and to generate a release of sexual emotions (orgasm) not only during masturbation but also during sex with a partner.

<i>”Many times sexual fantasies are used to induce or enhance sexual arousal, and while fantasies are often combined with masturbation to provide a source of turn-on when a partner is not available, fantasies are also extremely common during sexual activity with some one else. For instance, one study of 212 married women found that sex fantasies help many women achieve sexual arousal and/or orgasm during sexual intercourse.” (p416 Human Sexuality (fifth edition) 1995)</i>

<b>Some women’s sexual fantasies do not transfer to sex.</b>

Some women find that they are not able to use their sexual fantasies effectively during sex with a partner. It has been suggested that this is particularly true for complex and surreal fantasies (as they often are). The presence of another person interferes with the mental focus needed to generate sufficient arousal for orgasm.

To generate enough arousal to reach the heights of orgasm, my brain really has to focus. Even a dripping tap or someone else’s presence is enough to destroy my mental absorption in a sexual fantasy. So there is no question of being able to fantasize effectively during sex with a partner.

Women also have to work harder than men to generate orgasm from a much lower base level of sexual arousal. So we have to be more inventive about our sexual fantasies and their surreal nature can make them more difficult to relate to a sex life with a real-life partner.

<i>”Roxanne, a forty-seven-year-old psychiatrist, explains also that ‘women probably fantasize more and harder than men, because the traditional idea of feminine behavior is a burden to a woman during sex.

Fantasy restores the balance. Add to that that women spend more time thinking up stories anyway, and read more fiction than men, and you’ve got a wild world in there … lewd extravagances that I’ll bet most men never come even close to imagining.’

By focusing on some aspect of sex that she finds particularly arousing, and by exaggerating it to the point of outrageousness, a woman increases her chances of climaxing.” (p179 Satisfaction Guaranteed 1996)</i>

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In this clip plaintiff’s attorney Geoffrey Feiger questions former Jenny Jones Show producer Karen Campbell about her asking guests about sexual fantasies during their pre-interviews. Feiger builds up his case and it pays off in the end with an outburst of laughter in the court room.
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Scots stand-up comedienne Janey talks about Attention Deficit Disorder and her sexual fantasies in an extract from her show at East Kilbride Arts Centre, Scotland, on 9th February 2007. – CAUTION this clip may offend as it contains strong language and sexual references. All you need to know about Janey Godley can be found at: www.janeygodley.com Thank for watching
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Los Angeles, CA (PRWEB) May 15, 2006

SKETCHES OF ROME

She could draw his image, naked, perfect, and sensual—before she ever saw his face…

Rome DeMitri has sworn off women for good. That is until he uncovers sexually withdrawn artist, Dana Baker’s sexy secret. A sketchbook filled with erotic images of Dana and a lover that bares a striking resemblance to Rome’s own image.

Knowing this other side to his uptight neighbor makes his body ache with such a heated intensity, he devises a plan to use her own drawings to seduce her. Soon, Rome unleashes a fiery and passionate woman hiding under her demure exterior!

He will stop at nothing to have her. Little does he know—he already has…

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ABOUT AUTHOR

Bonnie Williams has been of member of Romance Writers of America for 5 years. She has a bachelor’s Degree from California State University, Los Angeles where she graduated magna cum lauda as well more then twenty 25 years in the world of art and creativity in general. Many of her admiring fans find her dichotomy of art verves business an intriguing one – but one she harmoniously excepts into her life with ease. This is her third novel. Her other erotic titles include, Tempt Me, and Tease Me, and her soon to be release title, Take Me,and she’s veyr excited to announce her new up-coming book which is also as her first non-fiction title “How to write a sexy Romance in 14 days or less”. Bonnie not only designs her own covers, she also creates the sexy male nude drawings shown on the front and back covers of Sketches of Rome. Bonnie also loves to here from her readers.

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Women Too Have the Right to Have Sexual Fantasies

Men easily reveal their sexuality and sexual desires and this is accepted by society. When a man is with a woman who attracts him, his body language tells her of the sexual attraction he feels and neither finds anything offensive in this. In fact, women have been indoctrinated over the centuries to be flattered by such signals from men.

But society does not tolerate women being as open and frank about their sexuality. This is not surprising since women have always been treated as an inferior species. So, almost since the beginning of civilisation, men have been free to flow with the tide as far as their sexual feelings are concerned, while a woman who did the same thing was branded as a brazen slut and reviled.

But things have changed now and women are breaking free of the cages they have lived in all these millennia. They now feel free to have their own sexual fantasies and to use their wiles openly to bring men to their knees. Now, it is not only men who seek to satisfy an unrelenting sex drive. Women do so too!

In her fantasies, a woman concentrates on her erogenous zones and then sex with her becomes a wild and unforgettable experience for her man. Sex, for a woman, is as much in the brain as it is in the body and, if a man does not understand this, the woman becomes cold and unresponsive. When a woman initiates sex, she performs the act of intercourse as she wants it, and this is often a real eye-opener for a man, who may understand for the first time what real coupling is.

Sex can be really great for a man only when his woman is as keen to have sex as he is. When she is passive and “allows” sex, it is just a way for a man to get a physical release, but when she actively participates and gets as much pleasure as she gives, it is an unforgettable experience.

So a man should be sensitive to his woman’s erotic fantasies. Since women like “thinking sex”, they like to read about sex and are fond of erotic stories, romantic novels, etc. One advantage of this is that such reading helps them get over their inhibitions and they become emboldened to express and then act out what they have read about and then imagined.

Surprisingly, they often want their men to do a complete about-turn in the way they treat them. Perhaps this is because they have not been able to explore their sexuality till recently. They no longer like or are willing to put up with being controlled. Their attitude to men is often insulting and men now find them enigmatic.

Rachel Duff is a woman of substance. She is very clear about what she wants in a man. She is 5′6″ tall and her man has to be taller than she is. Her present boyfriend is an inch taller than she is and that is fine by her.

Rachel loves her boyfriend very much but she refuses to be subservient or to allow him to dominate her in bed. Her man must make her feel like a woman. He must never abuse her or take her for granted. He must instead make her feel like a princess. He must never treat her as if she were his mother.

When it comes to sex, size does not matter for her, but he must get turned on and be able to satisfy her. She is quite stubborn about the fact that he must take control in bed. But this control must be as she wants it to be. For instance, she refuses to undress him, but he must undress her. The funda of all this is that he must treat her like a prize. And he has to unwrap his prize in a manner that stokes her desires and alerts all her senses.

Rachel wants her man to be gratified by making her sexual fantasies come to life. He must adore her breasts, lips and skin and be totally sexy as well. He must caress and massage her.

Her breasts are Rachel’s most erogenous zone and so she demands that her man be a “breast man” who finds a woman’s breasts very exciting. When they make love, she wants him to pay attention to her boobs, to touch and stroke and squeeze them.

Rachel believes that marriage is a pious bond. She wants the man she marries to be very sweet and to romance her whenever they go out.

Today’s women are out to enjoy themselves and are confident that they have both the right and ability to insist on their men pleasing them. They are free birds and now want to make their sexual dreams come true.

Some women fantasise on having sex under the stars because they like the calmness and silence of Nature. Others like to perform erotic dances to turn their men on. They know that the hot sex that will follow will reward them! Men will also be surprised by the answers they get if they ask their women if they like being pushed around.

Maully Jefferson describes herself as an exceedingly sexual person. She says that she finds out who she really is while she is having sex with her man. She wants her man to be manly, but also wants him to be romantic enough to take her in his arms – but in a manly manner. She enjoys watching blue movies with her man so that they both get turned on and have orgasms “internally”. Sometimes, these movies turn her on so much that she is aggressive and rough when she later makes love with her man. Maully also enjoys reading books on sex.

Such desires on the part of women, such attempts to satisfy their sexual needs, have a strong psychological component. Today, there is no shortage of women who are living their sexual fantasies in order to have satisfying sex.

HAVE A PERFECT TIME

For Shar Jeffery, sex is having a perfect time with her man. She wants to see hot desire for her on his face and wants to do all sorts of unthinkable things with him. He has to arouse each of her five senses. She moves around in bed expecting him to respond by moving to the erogenous areas she is directing him to. She expects him to bring her to an orgasm.

Women should be open about their fantasies. Only then can they hope to be fully satisfied. They should remember that they can dominate sex and thus achieve greater satisfaction.

This is the first of many episodes that are dedicated to sexual fantasies! In this weeks episode I share my dirtiest fantasy and briefly discuss why taboo thoughts are so provocative. Kinky? Curious? Email me: fetishcoach@gmail.com
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